This cow while resting after its grazing had a crow landing on its body for its feed of ticks from the cow's body. The cow allowed it for while and chased it away when the crow was tickling its ear, while exploring for ticks. That is when the cow shook off the crow with a forceful asking of its head.
The crow was an invader and the cow allowed it for a while.
Most of us guard our personal space strictly and resist any invasion or occupation. Yet the instinct of humans is to take encroach into the private space of others. We are inquisitive to know about others, what hey do and how they live. We engage discussing and dissecting people in their absence.
This sight led me to a time of soul searching! How much I respect the personal space of others and stay away comfortably! I felt that I seek to know more than I ought to know. I might do so out of curiosity rather than for the reason of understanding a person or a situation.
The personal space is a sacred space.
Whom I am is required to be made known so that others know more about me through self disclosure.
What of self disclosure is required!
The place of self disclosure is the family we belong to. We would do well if we can also make enough self disclosures in our social setting for others to know us enough to relate to.
It is when we live closed, others are intrigued and desirous to probe to know.
Honouring our private space by being thoughtful of others so that they know us well enough; respecting the private space of others without a driven inquisitiveness; relating to others on the basis of self disclosures they make and living peaceably with others as much as possible are good practices.
Eve forced Adam to eat the forbidden fruit. The force we use because of our intimacy and nearness to others to conform them to our liking or expectation disregard others and their private space.
When we feel invaded or our personal space getting forcibly occupied by others, we would need to shake off the imposition that comes upon us just as the cow did to the crow.
The fascinating part of this orientation is that silence can be the means to disarm others, who needle us to embarrass us. The solemn silence of Jesus of Nazareth before Pilate when he was accused unjustifiably is a sure path of honour we can seek for ourselves. Instead of defending, moving on, if possible with no malice towards them, who force into our private space, is a sign of hope and trust we repose in God of love and mercy!
M.C.Mathew(M.C.Mathew)
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