15 February, 2026

The growth trajectory!





The guava fruit has its origin in a blossom. One of more suits might emerge form the blossom. The second photos is of a guava fruit that is moving on to its ripening stage. The third photo is when it is still ripening, eaten by Barbets. 

The flower to fruit is a bout three months of growth process. 

One reason why we have some fruiting trees in the garden is to attract birds to the garden. We do not tie guavas to pluck as most of them would have already been eaten even before it turns mild yellow when ripe!

As I reflect on this process in the garden, I get a sense of the silent events in the garden! A flower becomes a fruit often noticed! The soil nourishes the tree and the process of growth goes on during the day and night !

Finally a fruit becomes an offering to birds. 

Just as the garden is the setting for plants and trees, a home is the setting for children to grow up. A mother with her fifteen weeks old baby made a discovery that the more she sang and engaged the baby, the more the baby became alert, attentive and responsive. The smile of the baby became the delight for the parents. It is this baby who will be turning over, holding the neck, sitting support, creeping and independent in sitting. The baby gains these developmental stages and offers the developmental progress to parents in response to what he or she receives from parents. 

How important it is to give attention to children to blossom! I feel from the stories of parents, that children when accompanied during the early years, the response from children brings refreshing returns!

In a larger sense, children are our offering to humanity ! Each family on earth perpetuates life in the community by the children, whom parents offer! When they grow up to be adults they lead the affairs of people in each community! 

It is as much as children grow up to be men and women of character, conviction and calling, the society becomes a virtuous home to bring wellness to all ! 


M.C.Mathew(text and photo)


 

The giving vocation!






The cashew tree in our garden is colourful to watch with cashew fruits in different stages of development. 

The tree with its blossoms appearing in November has since been with young and ripening cashew fruits. The guava tree is also with ripening fruits. The squirrels feed on them. 

A tree gives its fruits !

A plant gives its flowers and fruits. 

The garden is a place where this giving is full expression!

I experienced how giving can be refreshing to receive! While visiting an ENT consultant recently, I experienced how the giving was spontaneous, warm and caring, in the way I was attended to. I felt that giving was with a desire to help, affirm and guide!

During two telephone calls yesterday, I experienced how both of them were truly giving by listening and guiding! 

To give is to encourage and affirm! 

The journey path that we choose in our lives can be sometimes met with unforeseen obstacles and demands. It is then a word in season or an act of kindness can make all the difference to someone who finds the going weary and draining! 

When Anna and I returned home yesterday after a week of travel, It was special to experience the giving behaviour of Dulcie and  Daphne. They wanted to stay close to us and hoovered around us with canine behaviour of affection! The giving behaviour is natural to them! 

To live giving is a way of becoming present to others!


M.C.Mathew(text and photo)




Small, beutiful and elegant !




I noticed a pair of Cinereous Tit in  our courtyard yesterday, one gathering hair and fibres from the kennel yard and the other perched in the cable above and watching over its mate. 

Both of them flew to a tall nutmeg tree close by. It is the season of mating and nesting for many birds. 

With the day temperature soaring to 37 degree celsius many birds who were regular visitors or residents in the garden seemed to have moved away. The feeding station is no more occupied with their frequent visits. 

The one perched in the cable is likely to have been the male bird as it was giving away its bird calls. 

The Tit pair above timed their visit to the garden after the hair cut of Dulcie that there were strands of long hair on the ground, which the Tit was able to gather.  It highlights its observational and finding skills. 

A Tit , although small in size is immaculately groomed all the time to keep its body, flight ready! 

A small bird, but it too has its place and provision to live well!

This is the richness of the environment we are part of! There is a place and opportunity for every bird to live in its own way, although they have to be strategic to survive and avoid predators from hunting for the eggs in their nests! 

It was a pleasant sight to watch this pair of Tits preparing for their mating season! 


M.C.Mathew(text and photo)

14 February, 2026

Wellness within !





Anna and I happened to meet Dr William Cutting at the Christian Medical College, Vellore  this week, during a short visit. At 92 years he was visiting places in in India which had become part of his formative years. His great grandparents worked in India in Varanasi; his parents worked in ChikkaBallapur and William and Margot worked in Jammalamadugu. 

It was while working in a mission hospital, he felt the call to be involved in promoting child health of children living in disadvantaged situations. After his formal training, he worked along with Professor David Morley at the Institute of Cild health, London in evolving the road to health chart which later became the growth monitoring tool globally.  

Dr Cutting was a regular visitor to India in the nineteen eighties and nineties. Dr Rachel Chacko, professor of Cild Health at the Institute of Child health at Chennai was well known to him. It was she who introduced Dr William and Dr Margot to us. During one of his visits he spent a day with us at the Child Development Center at Chennai, and returned by saying that the facility that we offered in 1987 had a resemblance to what a Child Development Centre would offer in the United Kingdom. Since then he kept in touch, encouraging and sharing his thoughts about advancing the facility to be a training facility for Paediatricians in child development. 

During his next visit in 1994, he had met the director and the Medical Superintendent of the Christian Medical College, Vellore to encourage them to invite us to come to CMC to start a unit of Developmental Paediatrics. Dr V.I.Mathan, invited us to CMC, when he became the director, to start the Developmental Paediatrics Unit through a MOU with ASHIRVAD. That is how the child development Centre at Chennai got incorporated to start the first academic unit of this speciality in a medical college in India in 1997.

Dr Cutting at 92 years has phenomenal memory. He did recollect the season of three years of conversations with CMC Vellore to facilitate the starting of Child Development facility at CMC. Following the home call of Dr Margot in October 2025, It was his desire to visit India to places that he was associated with. His children decided to accompany him for visiting places and people that he had association with. 

Anna and I had an opportunity to visit Dr Cutting and Dr Margot in Scotland in 2021 during which time we had opportunity to recollect many experiences of involvement in child development. There are many memories and recollections that stay with us of that visit. 

What might fascinate most people who know Dr Cutting is the way he got immersed in the care of  the elderly by advocating movement as a way to stay well, after his retirement from his regular work in child health. He published three books and disseminated wellness measures for the elderly. He himself has movement related limitations now. But his inner wellness and zest for life inspired us when we met him during this week. 

Anna and I felt  moved by the way he lives the 'fullness of life' which he attributes to God and the experience of His presence in his daily life! His children and grandchildren make it possible by their encouraging support to him. 

One highlight of our visit to Vellore was meeting him and the accompanying members of his family!

Our wellness transcends physical limitations. Our wellness is an inner attitude and experience!

M.C.Mathew( text and photo)



05 February, 2026

From categorisation to wholeness !




The usual pattern in this family of Lilies is that each stem will bear four flowers, as seen in the photos above.  







The exceptions are that some will have only three flowers as in the above four photos; and  some bunches have five flowers as in the photo below. This is occasional. Even two flowers are noticed sometimes. I am yet to see a single flower alone in a stem!



This distribution of four flowers as the common pattern, three and five as occasional and one or two are rare ! This makes me think that this distribution from a statistical point of view is the normal distribution of occurrence. 

The five flowers and three flowers are outside the common pattern of the four flowers when viewed from the frequency of occurrence! 

The flowers with three or five add to the spectrum of the Lilies in a garden. 

Most of us categorise them as common and uncommon. 

But a better way is to appreciate the uniqueness each flower bunch represents! 

The tendency to label something as normal and anything different from that as abnormal is a pattern of thinking we develop as we have a tendency to classify what we see or hear into different categories. 

We categorise people based on nationalities, economic standing, religion, language, etc. 

The division of people as normal or handicapped prevailed for a long time till in the recent twenty-five years. Now those with special needs inherit a different status as those who are 'differently able'!

I wish the tendency for categorisation of people into different subgroups will gradually fade away! Instead,  to be able to see people groups forming a mosaic of humanity for us to dwell relationally and collaboratively is a calling !

How distressing it is to watch the subtle underlying spirit of white supremacy influencing the political thinking in the United States of America. That country was a hospitable home for migrants from all over the world, who came to pursue their aspiration in a climate which promoted opportunity for all !

I wish the differences between people will get subsumed under the umbrella of acceptance and cordiality because all of us live sharing the resources of the earth given by God, the giver all good gifts! 


M.C.Mathew(text and photo)




04 February, 2026

Silent dissent !

 



There are times when Dulcie leaves behind questions to ponder upon by her behaviour!

The first photo is her engaging look, which is what she conveys most of the time when she is around us indoor. She follows Anna in all her moves during the day. Her longing is to be near Anna as much as possible. 

When I engage her for her morning and evening walks, she often leads the walk choosing her favourite places in the garden. 

There are times, when she wants to stay longer especially sunbathing in the morning sun. 

The second and third photo above are of an occasion when she avoided  responding to my call to go back home. She silently disengaged by looking away. A firm dissent!

When she was ready to return after a while, she moved and turned to me to announce that 'I am ready', which is what is seen in the photo below!

I notice that her dissent is silent and firm in similar ways when we disrupt her autonomy!

At an advanced age of thirteen years for a dog of her breed, she behaves responsibly and communicatively. She behaves in a soberly manner all the time!

The dissent that I notice in public places like in a meeting or a deliberation is noisy, verbally aggressive or accusative, threatening or challenging the opposite view or even bordering to be defamatory in the language used to communicate!

Dulcie is different from all these! She is firmly expressive of her interest or choice and returns to her composed behaviour after indicating clearly that she still wants to have freedom to exercise her autonomy! She is not a conformist, but an utterly faithful companion!

I have recollections of some meetings I have been part of in the recent years. I remember listening to people who have a different opinion than what the majority in the group tends to pursue. The dissenting opinion is so presented that it gets noticed because of the way it is discussed in a measured tone, regardfully of other opinions and yet differing to bring a wholistic picture into focus on the matter under discussion. 

In the book, The Gift of Years-Growing Older Gracefully, Joan Chittister while writing on Success (p115) paused a question: " Did we succeed in living gently on  Earth, on creating a balance in our lives of time with nature, time with people, time with God, time for reflection, time for new kind of personal development? If not, it is time to plan our days rather than simply have them slip by unnoticed".

This 'time for new kind of personal development' is all about being ourselves and allowing others to becoming themselves. 

We live in a quarrelsome ambience! 

It is vocation to be a peace maker!

Dulcie sowed me that her dissent was only to claim and express her autonomy and not a reaction! 

A dissent is not therefore to be made into a protest to lead to agitation or aggression. A dissent is a calling to create space for other opinions!


M.C.Mathew(text and photo)




03 February, 2026

Remembering others who feel alone!




 

The Lilies have an origin, plant life and flowering stages!

I have had occasions in the recent weeks to come across biographical experiences of people in their youthful days, that reminded me about the way they responded to the opportunity to become present to others for an altruistic mission in life. 

I came across a senior citizen in his eighties involved in designing a home care programme with a strong medical component for those who are home bound due to diseases which need regular monitoring. I remember how Dr William Cutting in his mid eighties popularised movement as a way to stay fit for senior citizens in Britain by publishing books and uploading videos. 

Anna and I feel inspired by such examples of people, young and old in age, who see the needs of others as an opportunity to innovate and respond to make a difference in the community! 

This way of living with 'consciousness of others' in mind is an inspiration for us. 

When our garden is coloured by Lilies and  Orchids blooming around our cottage, they silently bring this message to us, 'be giving'!

Life, living and leaning can be self centred or other centred!

There comes a time in every person's life when seeking after an exclusive pursuit of purpose for oneself creates a void or a longing to be inclusive!

A senior citizen who makes a round of telephone calls or sends messages every day to few people is helping others to live remembered and encouraged! 

I found that as an inspiration!

That becomes a call to move out of our insular orbit to creating interface of contacts and relationships! 


M.C.Mathew (text and photo)