The three small flowers in our garden this morning!
It is the third flower above that fascinated me!
From a distance it looked too small to be of any consequence. But when I captured a macro view, the flower stood out as outstanding with brushy appearance in the centre! It might be a Spiderwort flower!
It is lesson in living !
A distant view and a close up view can be wide apart informationally and experientially.
I get introduced to this theme as I listen to families. They describe children sometimes from a distant view! A family who sought help for sudden onset of bedwetting for their seven years old son, insisted that everything was normal at home.
It was while interviewing the child I found out that, he went to bed thinking about the quarrel between his father and mother ! I found out that it was on those days he had bed wetting!
The casual pathway was in the family! How much the child got blamed by his parents!
The facts from a distant view and from a close up view can be poles apart. The child had his urine tested and lumbo-sacral X-ray taken and suffered further emotionally by these steps.
It was following a few sessions of conversations, there was a readiness on the part of parents to attend to their behaviour in order to reduce the strain on the child emotionally. The parents found a different way to discuss their differences of opinion. They were learning to be polite to each other !
It is important to be patient to know the entire truth in every situation by listening, considering and pondering!
M.C.Mathew (text and photo)
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