This is the only picture of a honey sucker I was able to take so far, in spite of several efforts. They are fast and fidgety that it calls for instant shooting and constant readiness. Even this picture is not sharp enough. I have thus failed in may attempts.
I have parents who visit me to share their lamentations about their failed efforts in bringing discipline, order and good conduct in their children. As I listen to them, I realize, how preoccupied they are with some of their acts of commission and omission. As I make them list several valuable contributions, they have been able to make in their children’s life, they are refreshed by the recall. But soon, they return to their self blaming pattern.
Parenting has an inherent paradigm. We fail often and succeed many a times. The reason is that children are a mystery that it takes a life time to understand them. They are so unique that they are unfathomable. What we can still do as parents is to offer our love, affirmation and acceptance. These are tools to stay in touch with them. Many children choose to stay away from their parents because they are tired of control, demand to conform and comply. Another way to draw children towards us is by listening, engaging and offering a sense of belonging. We may fail still, but our patience will bear fruit.
M.C.Mathew (text and photo)
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