Auditing behaviour!

The arrangements of petals in the rose flowers different and it is one interest that has grown with me to know the mystery of this diversity!

Let me quote from a text in the internet : "The petals of rose flower are arranged, in a spiral pattern, with varying structures like, cupped, flat, globular and high-centred forms depending on the variety. They can be arranged in different classifications, such as single, semi-double, double, and full blooms, and are typically fused at the base, to form a cup-like structure called, hypanthium".

The shapes of flowers are influenced by the structure of petals and pattern of arrangements. 

Who we become are influenced by the convergence of our temperament, character and values. Our behaviour is an expression of this convergence.  

I discover from my own habit that there are three patterns of behaviour- considered, impulsive and provoked !

The considered behaviour is when one thinks, views the issue from different perspectives, enquire or read to form an opinion  and evolve a measured opinion that represents the whole truth as mush as possible. 

The impulsive behaviour is an instant response mostly superficial and emotionally evoked rather than guided by facts and perception.

The provoked response is a defence in a difficult situation where arguments and compulsive thoughts dominate. Such experiences occur at unexpected or difficult situations leading to stressful behaviour. 

It is this awareness of how I conduct myself in different situations which led me to be pursuing another path in conversation and behaviour.

Hearing the person ought to lead to receiving the person as he or she is without being carried away by what a person says or does not say or how he or she says them. It is not to what one hears that becomes the foundation for response but a regardful view of the person. When such a view becomes a habit, one gradually becomes responsive to the person and not get carried  away  by what the person speaks or does.

It is a long journey from being aware to practicing in conversation and relationship. It is good to be in a journey as even the first few steps would led the way in to the future !

The arrangements of petals, colour, fragrance and longevity of flowers differ, which is what makes each flower distinct. 

It is our conduct,  behaviour and communication which constitutes to make us what we are!

A self audit of these domains is a weekly exercise that all adults can pursue, as a pathway to revise the way of our living!

M.C.Mathew(text and photo)