I watched a single Bulbul, who was alone in the nutmeg tree in our garden, which was joined by another Bulbul and how they exchanged bird calls on a cloudy morning !
Each became present to the other!
Becoming present in a communicative way in a conversation, is a transformative experience bringing a level of trust and nearness.
I realise from conversations in the recent months that those with whom I was in touch were looking for sharing experiences and thoughts to receive resonances of cheer and affirmation.
The two Bulbuls seemed to connect with each other emotionally!
It is this which calls for attention! I felt inclined to audit how much I feel for people with whom I am in touch. Am I in touch with people for what I might need from them or am I in touch with some people for what I can offer by way of conversation, support, affirmation and encouragement.
The way to stay in touch with people ought to transcend a utilitarian purpose! Each of us can stay in touch with some for their sake or for supporting their needs and stay near to make them feel supported!
When a relationship has a self-giving dimension, it enables others to feel valued and appreciated!
The communicative presence is such a way of carrying others in our thoughts and heart !
M.C.Mathew(text and photo)
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