The silent presence!

Some flowers blossom all through the year and therefore do not get noticed! The familiarity of their presence reduces them to be ordinary. The bees and insects come to them to gather nectar. Perhaps it is when I see it, I remember the presence of these flowers. 

Sometimes it is the periodic absence, during the in between times  which makes some flowers get noticed.

A pre-school child who is noisy and disruptive gets more attention than a child who fits in to the routine at home. 

Each child merits attention equally and differently!

A family with two children who are in the pre-school level told me that their daughter fits in to a routine and is 'easy' going where as their son who is younger is into some mischief or another every day!

The parenting stye needs to be individually tailored to meet the needs of each child. A child who integrates well to the routine of the home  and a child who needs attention to regulate his behaviour are alike in one aspect- each child is in a stage of formation of his or her behaviour. 

During the pre-school years a child's behaviour is a reflection of how a child perceives the environment. 

A family evolved a schedule of 'giving attention' to their son through a plan of activities each day that in three weeks his insistence, disruptive pattern or noisy responses changed into waiting for his turn showing participation in activities in an interactive way. 

The parenting style changed and a pre-school child was quick to respond!

One child adapts to the routine of home easily and a sibling adapts when he or she is directed to adapt. 

The impulsive behaviour of a child can be an imitation of the impulsive behaviour of parents. 

The flowers above are silently present in the garden. Some other flowers by their presence and absence get noticed more. 

The parenting is an attitude towards children to upbuild them by making the environment more suiting to the needs of each child. 

I feel that parenting is a convergence of science, art and consistency of attention!

The parenting presence, differently designed to suit the needs of each child is what makes childhood a formative season!

M.C.Mathew(text and photo)