The avian behaviour in couple communication has some interesting patterns. The above pair of Bulbuls surprised me with the language of intimacy and emotional nearness in their communication.
The silent presence of beholding each other was the initial phase The look between them in the first three photos, was communicative and engaging. The look is a gift in receiving and affirming. There is a lot at an emotional level, which the exchange of soulful look express to grow in awareness of each other. The silence makes it solemn and endearing.
The look draws them to each other bodily as an expression of intimacy. The 4th and 5th photographs give a message that there is a language of love shared between them. What enlarges the ambience of belonging is such an attitude of being drawn towards each our in appreciation and affirmation. I had not sensed earlier that avians can have such a behavioural profile, during courtship or family life. One thinks of birds as flighty and cerebral. The two photographs announce the emotional and nearness behaviour.
The last two photos are of verbal communication. It is one Bulbul which is taking the verbal initiative. Their communicative phase was interrupted by a squirrel that came in to their visual orbit, which made them move to be near another Bulbul on top of the tree. The body language of the two Bulbuls perched beside each other is obviously anxiety, with a flight ready posture.
I took time to ponder over the communication pattern that evolves between people in families. Anna and I have a time of being together in the morning, in an attitude of being present to each other. This brings our thought world and emotional state to a trustful level. That is one aspect of the daily exercise of the 'two becoming one'!
I have a suspicion that humans live a life style oriented towards, 'what shall we eat, where we shall live and what we shall put on' and get drawn away by the pursuit of things, comforts and acquisitions and move away from each other emotionally and relationally.
I feel that growing in feeling towards each other and turning relationships into colourful experiences of shared living is getting marginalised!
In private life and public life, thee is less of intimacy and harmony!
I found the same pair in their relational presence to each other, during the meal time in our garden.
I wish family lives would have the ambience of relational presence. The practice of silent presence, receptive nearness and verbal communications to edify each other create trustful relationship.
M.C.Mathew (text and photo)
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