The garden around our cottage has a display of single flowers, bunch of flowers, flowers along with buds and buds in different stages waiting to open.
As I watch this scene day after day, my thoughts travel to a psycho-social dimension of human beings.
There are single people, families and children being born!
Anna and I have been in touch with a few families recently, who prepare to welcome their baby shortly! The process of preparing to welcome the baby involves thoughtful acts. The involvement of the father and mother towards this preparation is an endearing experience in these families.
A married couple becomes parents. In most homes the rhythm and routine of the day gets conditioned by the baby. For the mother it becomes even more personal as she has to be ready to feed when the baby is hungry. A mother gets conditioned by this routine.
The cry of an infant makes the parents to respond and attend to the needs of the infant. Parents listen to the needs of the baby.
When an infant becomes a toddler and grows up to be a pre-schooler, the parents gradually move on to be in an instructional mode to their children to introduce them to desirable behaviour and appropriate social and communicative responses.
The parents learn about their child and the child learns about the parents during this process. Knowing and being known becomes the ambience of this season.
A garden is a home for flowers.
A home is a garden of life, living and learning for children
The plants bear the flowers; parents bear and nurture their children!
If parenting role is significant, do all parents receive guidance for parental formation?
There aer marriage enrichment programme; but enrichment programme for parenting is not so common.
Parenting is a formative journey as parents need to adapt to the needs of children who grow up from infancy to teenage years!
I wish parenting education would become an integral component to family life formation. It is a science and art, too risky to be left to be governed only by tradition or experience.
The psychology of parenting involves finding a healthy meeting point between adults and children! That is how we can protect parenting to be healthy for parents and children! Some times parents drift from their parenting roles and some other times children drift and become distant to parents.
A home is a fertile ground for formation of adults to be parents and children to become adults!
M.C.Mathew(text and photo)
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