The insects have attacked the leaves and what next ! The buds !
One of the sights I inspect each morning is where the rose bush is about to blossom!
I noticed the leaves missing and some remaining with partly eaten by spiders or caterpillars.
How long one can be resistant to use pesticides !
This is a dilemma!
When I heard a mother talk about her seven year old son taking money to buy sweets or fast food, without the knowledge of parents, it had already reached a stage of deceitfulness or dishonesty!
A mother's question about her response to the situation left me frozen!
Once a habit is formed it is already harming the child!
A child is at risk of being drawn into more corrupt behaviour!
At the end of the conversation it occurred to me that her son's behaviour was a reactive behaviour. His parents did not give him enough personal time of engagement ! Both parents were not used to playing with him, reading to him, having conversations about school events or friends or having a ritual at bed time of winding down for the day. He took money initially hesitantly, later on it was with no inhibition.
The mid childhood between 7 to 12 years would be a time when peer pressure comes upon a child heavily.
How do we protect children and upbuild a child to grow up with sound thinking and healthy practices!
The interactive engagement with children in a cordial, affectionate and affirming ways, during mid childhood is both therapeutic and formative for sound childhood behaviour!
Three weeks later when the mother came back, I heard the good news of how the pleasant conversation time was already creating a trustful ambience. Her son was not crazy anymore for his sweets or fast food!
No child can overcome temptation or traction on his or her own! It is the loving ambience of care, attention and communication which parents create, that would make a child in mid childhood stay grounded in values that he is used to experiencing at home !
The three buds reminded me of this family!
I wish more parents would become companions to their children during mid childhood !
M.C. Mathew (text and photo)
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