The buds of lily becoming flowers; banana bunch maturing and four generations of cashew fruits in one bunch! Each of them tells the way of becoming what they are conditioned to become. The soil conditions and weather remaining favourable, each of them would finally become what they began to become!
A infant becomes a toddler, then a pre-schooler, and grows through mid-childhood to be a pre-teenager, teenager, and a young adult. Erickson has a psycho-behavioural title and description for each of these stages.
I remember welcoming an infant of I month with the history of a perinatal stroke with manifestations of hemiparesis on the right side. The family kept visiting every three months for planning for his developmental progress. When I met the family with this boy who is now at school with good overall grades, I realised how the formative process was enriched by the nurturing presence and accompaniment of his parents. He is on a trajectory of recovery and childhood prospects. His mother and father improvised the environment in different ways to let his development follow a pathway of prospects an promised. The boy is interested in singing, dance, nature, pets and household animals. He relates and draws people to himself by courteous behaviour and communicative enthusiasm.
Becoming is therefore an integration of nature and nurture.
The photos above and the story of the family convey how the becoming is the fruit of giving the nurture to what was inherent to develop.
Parents need a dream to see their child develop into fullness!
What alters the parent-child interaction time is occupation of parents or children or both in the visual media !
The visual media which for a child can be educational or informational has become the focus of entertainment, video games, surfing the net and social media engagements! They are adverse influences for children at lest till they are teenagers unless moderated and supervised!
Let children become their full beings! Let parenting return to the primary purpose of enabling children to be in the path of becoming!
M.C.Mathew(text and photo)
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