31 March, 2025

A green campus !

The tree island above, is one among the many, in a campus that I visited recently. It stands apart as a deliberately planned lung space in that campus, which has been expanding with many buildings in the last two decades. 


The avenue trees along the loops of roads in the campus is another inviting sight to behold! The colours and contours of trees are captivating!
 



How much we care is expressed in different ways. One expression is the respect and regard we offer to plants and trees and the space we offer to grow them. If at least one third of the total place in a campus is offered to the green the campus, it is a good start. Most campuses have only concrete structures. 

The campus above has only one third of its pace as built in space. That is how the planners envisage campus for the future!

Let me suggest that while the urge is to monetise the land space  with  mechanise in view, the counter of it is, a value based approach to promote healthy living, by creating green belt in all campuses where people congregate, such as educational institutions, hospitals....! 

That is the way of living mindfully of ourselves and of our environment!


M.C.Mathew(text and photo)

From the broad way to the narrow way!




I watched the two men in the photos above, taking a turn to walk along the less travelled narrow unpaved foot path,  which leads to the flowing river below. There is a notice at the mouth of this foot path, which cautions people to take that path as it can be slippery! The long and broad path to the river is further ahead!

I watched them navigate the foot path carefully till they were visible to me from a distance. 

The less travelled path is a risky path! 

The often quoted verse from the poem, The Road not taken,  by Robert Frost, published in 1916 : "Two roads diverged in a wood, and I, I took the one less travelled by, and that has made all the difference" came to my mind. I traced the poem to get the full text. 

The first stanza, "Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
                          And sorry I could not travel both
                          And be one traveler, long I stood
                         And looked dow finished n as far as could
                         To where it bent in the undergrowth", 

truly told story of these two men,  who waited a while to choose their path! 

I met a nurse recently who having finished the nursing training in another country was offered opportunity in a promising situation. But within, this person felt a prompting to go to a rural hospital and start the nursing practice there. Having been in that setting on two occasions spending few months each time, that person talked about a sense of purpose emerging through this experience. 

The non conventional paths do not appear inviting or impressive as the 'broad path' has enticing setting and appealing prospects. 

When Dr Paul Brand was the Principal of the Christian Medical College, Vellore he happened to encounter serious limitations in the functioning  of hands those who suffered from leprosy. Dr Edward Gault and Dr Brand visited a hospital where patients of leprosy lived with ulcers in the feet and deformed hands. It was that sight that urged him to  relinquish his position as the Principal and spend his life time of service to study and respond to the neurological damage caused by Lepra Bacilli. That further led him to the reconstructive surgery of hand and foot of such people and rehabilitation. Dr C.K.Job became his partner in this endeavour after Dr Gault returned to Australia. Dr Mrs Brand worked on restoring the eye lid functions surgically, of such people.

I remember Dr Brand quoting in an interview, the poem of Robert Frost and said that 'he too chose the less  travelled path into the unknown of the mystery of the nerve pathology in patients of Leprosy'.

The  less travelled path is often a solitary path. It is occasional that one would find co-travellers or companions in the course of that journey till something substantial springs out of that journey!

It will be soon 14 years since I retired from my regular academic and clinical work.  I spent 12 years after that in exploring a path that I thought would be pointers to others to consider. There was a handful who became co-travellers during this period. I feel grateful to them and feel touched by their enthusiasm to persevere. 

The 'less travelled path' is also a way of living, where life receives lessons to stay content by living centred in matters that concern others, who long for help and direction!

M.C.Mathew(text and photo)




Hollyhock and carpenter Bee






Where there are flowers, Bees arrive for nectar. The bees have a high level of odour sensors that they are drawn by the nectar in the flowers.

The last photo above gave an interesting feature of its habit of nectar gathering. It rests its body on the petals and receive the nectar. 

The restful behaviour !

As I walked along, I noticed these two dogs on a sandpit in a similar restful orientation, and yet alert and observant! For dogs, it is a habit to  be keen detectives of the environment. 


The way of being and behaving is a critical factor in the way we are present in each situation. 

I realised that I can be focused on my pursuit and interest! How much I am observant and aware of the situation around where people might be in different states of need!


I happened to be behind these three men while on my walk. I overheard a conversation of the struggle of one of them trying to find a job after completing an engineering course. It was two years since he is looking out for a job. He has a part time job in a shop as a  packer!

The stress and despair was in his tone of words!

The Bee found its nectar; the dogs appeared restful....but the story was different to the one who was sharing his story to his friends. 

We carry untold stories within ourselves in the inner landscape of our lives! Those thoughts and experiences season and colour our lives!

The inner self, is either strength giving or energy depleting ! We house in our body  a state of wellness or stress, which is what get expressed in our body. Our body is a medium of communication of that wellness or stress!

Being well within is what is essential to live restfully! 

I find regular personal debriefing exercises useful to stay connected with the events hidden away in the inner landscape! That offers space and ambience to be accepting and trusting! That brings freedom and new consciousness of  God who is caring and watching over us!

M.C.Mathew(text and photo)

30 March, 2025

Another level of being!







I recollect watching this Bulbul feeding on red chilly in our garden a few weeks ago! 

It took a bite first and subsequently plucked the remaining of the chilly!

Its waiting pose, while looking at the chilly intrigued me! It was not in a hurry! It is the habit of Bulbuls to pause in between feeds. 

I found this as a reflective path to practice!

Take pauses to return to be in touch with oneself! Such a self regulation from within is a way of living and acting, guided from within. 

This pondering habit is what protects us from mindless impulsive responses or actions. 

The habit of living and acting, by being centred in conscious awareness is the step towards living wisely and soberly!

This habit enables a person to live soulfully, rather than rationally! In  a Chess game one lets go of a piece or two, seeing the larger picture beyond that! That is a well thought out approach. The interior language of reason is one resource for us. Another resource is the accumulated wisdom,  which we can access by discerning the situation from a deeper level of consciousness and insight! 


M.C.Mathew(text and photo)

29 March, 2025

A silent gloomy walk!




I noticed an elderly couple on a morning walk in a hospital campus, silent and looking gloomy! I stayed watching their walk because their body language conveyed the heaviness they were carrying!

The sun was shining on them from behind!

A mango tree beside them was with its tender leaves announcing the season of its bloom. 

A Eurasian tree sparrow with one leg on the ground, was watching the couple pass by and kept gazing at them for a while. 

This scene stayed with me during the day about the journey in life most people encounter at some time or other!

The experience of illness is a difficult season in one's life! 

The sparrow with one leg seemed to notice the couple and visually followed them!

I was intrigued by the sparrow's searching look! All that it could do was to stay watching the elderly couple with attention. It offered its gift of looking to see !

It became a silent message to me!

Looking to see!

Seeing is a prelude to feeling!

It is when we allow ourselves to feel, we enter the next inner experience of being moved!

Those who are moved are the ones who respond to care!

Was the sparrow injured that lost one leg? Or was the leg folded under its body. I do not know. 

This added to the mystery of that road side scene! If it  was an injured sparrow, then, it symbolised a behaviour of mindfulness even when hurt! Some withdraw to be self absorbed when hurt! But this sparrow was attentive to look and see, while staying hurt with a loss of a limb!


M.C.Mathew(text and photo)








 

28 March, 2025

Alone or together!











The above sights during a morning walk fascinated me, while I was visiting a hill station. 

A cock and hen were on the morning stroll to find feed from beneath the leaves on the ground. 

I tracked an Eurasian tree sparrow, initially perched on a roof top, reaching a water pipe and drinking from a small pool of water on the ground and later moving to the dry ground to find its feed. 

I found many nests made by weaver ants on the tree top giving an overview of the spectrum of life inhabiting  this wooded area. 

Amidst the tensions between nations that got escalated since the new president of the United States of America has been in the office during the last two months, it was good to see these sights, where life is lived in its usual way indicative of peace and tranquil the birds experience. They find their provisions for each day from the giving earth. 

The urge some nations like, the USA, Russia and Israel communicate is to 'dominate' the earth by being aggressive and ambitious territorially!

Against this background, to see these birds quietly living their lives and receiving food and water from the giving earth, became a message of hope and affirmation of the only reality that sustains life on earth. Live by giving and receiving, and not by grabbing and hoarding!

It was while listening to a family yesterday, I got more close to this reality of life. A child who is developmentally challenged, is cared by a care giver most of the day, as both parents work long hours outside the home. The parents feel helpless with limited options to involve more in the life of their son. I found the conversation disturbing. We live amidst people who stay at their cross road, lost and weary! 

Such would be the stories of thousands of people on account of helplessness to move on!

Why is that those in positions of responsibility do not turn their attention to people in need and direct the ethos of the society to  mindfulness, consideration and proactive thoughtfulness towards people finding the going too difficult on their own!

I take home a message from the birds above, that life is about living in our situations taking small steps to fend for ourselves! While doing so, live mindfully of others for whom life has become burdensome. 

The cock in the picture below was helping and guiding the hen to find its feed! 


M.C.Mathew(text and photo)

 

27 March, 2025

Living close to ourselves!




The flowers above in our garden seem to thrive in the summer heat of the day. They have something in them that enable to overcome the stress caused by high temperature and humidity!

The photos of the flowers below show signs of 'burnt out' in different ways, two with the edges of the petals rolling up, three of them showing signs of the petals turning brown and the last photo showing a droopy state! 





I happened to listen to a friend a few days ago, who shared some of the difficulties that he was going through due to sickness, children facing challenges and demands at work. He wondered, 'I hope I am not slipping into a burnt out stage'!

It was following that conversation, I associated the flowers showing signs of heat exhaustion metaphorically to a state of 'burnt out' state. 

The effects of difficulties we face at work place, in family life and  relationships do leave us with a silent turbulence within, with questions and reactions. They become 'weighty' and settle down in our inner orientation as a burden. It becomes a feeling of gloom or anxiety which would be the early stage of the 'burnt out' state with a feeling exhaustion or lack of energy or interest to engage in the usual activities. . 


The rose flowers which endured the heat had shade for part of the day protecting them from the day long sunlight. 

The orchid above was in the shade all the day that it survived the harmful effect of the heat of the day. 

The feeling of "burnt out' is a real state psycho-behaviourally that a prompt corrective measure is needed to feel relieved and to overcome the  inner ambience of heaviness and loss of vigour or enthusiasm!

A regular de-briefing of personal recollections to identify the stress- giving pathway and consciously unburdening oneself with personal upbuilding activities of rest, relaxation and reaffirming the inner composure to restore wellness will be needed. Often conversation with a confidant will be needed to feel cared for and to receive protection from a lonely feeling. The internal personal conversation, conversation with a confidant and conversation in prayer are pathways for recovery! 

The preventive and protective steps to endure stress and yet feel well is  the life line for people in situations when situations are more demanding than anticipated. Most of us have a threshold of resilience and endurance. It is when the burdens grow larger than the coping level, the early signs of 'burnt out' experiences set in. 

I find monitoring the wellness  by using helpful questionnaires every three to four months, aa a useful way to have an audit of my interior state. 

If friends with whom we are in touch can alert us when we act or behave differently from the usual, it can help us to take protective measures on time, before slipping into a state of  exhaustion emotionally! 

It is normal to encounter 'burnt out ' experience. It can give us an opportunity to grow into a greater level of emotional resilience. It reveals to ourselves the vulnerability and risk state we might encounter! That sense of awareness prepares us to protect ourselves and work on restoring emotional wellness and interior comfort level!

The need is to live intimate with ourselves to know the interior canvas of our life and respond thoughtfully and attentively to our different needs. 

The peace of well being is the symbol that the flower bunch below conveyed to me while reflecting!



M.C. Mathew. (Text and photo)

 

26 March, 2025

The calling to live for others!

One gain while walking in the garden is to watch and experience new beginnings in the plants. The vibrant colours and exuberance of the beginnings are evident in the colourful leaves and bring hope.

The phots below give a mixed  message of the beginning, their life span and the last phase of life. The flowers fade and the petals fall off into the soil that nourished their life so far. 



This tree with  the drying branches below makes an announcement of its impending transition to its closure of life!

 

The  biography of plants, flowers and a tree from their  beginning to the end can often be seen in every garden. 

What brought cheer and consolation during the walk in the garden was a sense of gratefulness for the gift of life! The trees, plants, and flowers bring their gift to the garden. The roots of the trees and plants receive their nourishment from the soil and bring the abundance of life through the growing process. 

I wondered whether people on earth receive that form of nourishment to live and bloom. The human society is the nourishing medium for sustaining life on earth. 

Has the society become exploitative with some people thriving at the expense of others!

The head of a charitable organisation mentioned to me that the tendency in the recent years is a traction towards affluent life style which alters the attitude of giving and sharing!

The giving and caring attitude is the soul of a society. How much we are neighbourly in our thought and deed is what matters during our life span on the earth. 

The news of war and war mongering is in the air in the recent months! It is a sign of societal distress! It is a behaviour towards possessing more and giving less!

The plants, trees, and flowers left with me a message that the vocation of living to give to make others experience wellness in their lives!


M.C.Mathew(text and photo)