I listened to a recollection of events that a friend shared, some of which were distressing at the time they occurred ! I felt moved how that person turned those difficulties, misunderstanding and humiliation into upbuilding blocks ! That person carries the past gracefully and gratefully!
Evey rose bush in our garden has the above profile as in the photo. They flower in due season and their flowers fade away. The stalk of the dried flower remains as a memory for a while till that stem grows further to bear another bud !
I listened to another person who told me of disappointments which now turn to be resources for endurance and resilience!
Most of us remember hurting or painful events for a while. They settle to stay in our subconscious level and appear as dreams metaphorically or symbolically if the events have not been processed and integrated to move forward.
Paying attention to our dreams is one way to discern if we have processed the difficult times and received the message of hope and direction or we are yet to process to move on!
The rose flower appears in a stem which has thorns.
To experience some difficult or distressing times is normal, but what needs attention is the recovery process. Do we recover with bitterness still lingering or with peace and comfort to move on with malice towards none and openness towards all including those who caused hurt or pain ?
The plant above is giving in habit. In that process even when it is pruned, it sprouts to give shoots, stems and flowers!
In every dispute or conflict prone situation, the attitude of giving and forgiving is the solemn experience bilaterally!
I revisit situations where there were difficulties in relationship, and send messages of confession and cordiality whenever possible, although sometimes such an act of response was delayed. Whenever there was reciprocity, I found the relationship liberating and not burdensome!
We live with our past. We have pleasant and unpleasant experiences. Both have a formative and creative effect upon our lives! I heard a friend say once: 'Free all those you imprisoned in your thoughts' ! What a call to live freely, thoughtfully and cordially!
M.C.Mathew (text and photo)
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