How birds use their legs to perch and support themselves! The legs support the body even during sleep. They hop with their legs and scratch the ground to look for feed. They securely ground themselves with their legs. That provides safety and security!
I noticed a Pond Heron perched asymmetrically on a coconut palm in our garden. It was only when I watched the photographs while editing, I noticed that it has missing toes on the right limb. That limits the versatile perching that birds are used to!
This sight raised some thoughts for me to ponder upon!
The asymmetry in Pond Heron's posture and behaviour arose out of a wound it suffered.
I remember coming across people who are disproportionately irritable, biased, critical out imposing! I thought of situations when I carried a tendency towards such a behaviour. They were occasions when I suffered hurts and wounds, because of which I experienced transient seasons of 'asymmetry' in my behaviour.
What one looses most, when one is emotionally wounded is the sense of equanimity, consideration and resilience.
How do we prepare ourselves to recover from our emotional wounds? I find one process helpful. Just as a physical hurt would need care, bandaging, medicines or actions to restore function, the emotional hurt would also need a healing touch.
The healing touch begins by being truthful to oneself by accepting one's own role in causing the hurt. An emotional hurt is the outcome of a process. That process was also in our domain just as it was also in the domain of others involved in a conflict.
It is this consciousness that can initiate us to be confessing and forgiving. It is when we confess and take steps to forgive, we foster readiness to be accepting and accommodating! The unilateral openness is good enough to begin with !
The self care, the psychologists propose comes to be significant to initiate healing process in every discordant situation!
Do I have a bag of healed memories or hurting memories !
When I ask this question at the end of each month during a personal debriefing, I receive inspiration to be proactive to facilitate healing of emotional hurts!
Life when lived with such a sense of wellness, we free ourselves of entanglements and free others from our imprisoning thoughts towards them.
It is a good practice to find ways to feel well and share that sense of wellness to others to help them experience healing of their emotional hurts!
M.C.Mathew(text and photo)
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