The above photos taken after the rain fall show the laves and flowers in this plant carrying an ornamental look with water drops covering them. It is such mystical sights that would move a composer or a poet into a song or a poem.
The photos of the same plant at dawn, following a dry night show another appearance of leaves and flowers. They are smeared with the dew of the night. The leaves and flowers convey a different mood.
The same plant on two different situations!
The appearance of leaves, flowers and fruits is formed by what they receive from the atmosphere around it.
A plant and its leaves, flowers and fruits appear differently following a rain fall and the dew of the night.
The variability in the ambience of home where children grow up would have an impact on their formative process.
We get an impression of the formative process of a child in mid childhood through his or her behaviour, communicative style, and relational style. A child expresses what he or she has internalised. If the ambience was rich with indications of acceptance, fondness, intimacy, regard, and honourable nurturing practices, a child often feels secure and comfortable. Such children create fraternal attitude towards other children and adults.
The becoming process of a child is what needs attention as we live in an environment of multiple influences upon our children.
I recall a conversation time around the dining table in a home, where two children, one seven and the other nine, were narrating the cultural festival that was going on in there school. The whole dinner time was spent in conversation with what children initiated about their experiences or observations. I felt fascinated by the listening intent and interest of the parents. I found out that the dinner time is usually a conversation time initiated by children. The openness and freedom with which children share their thoughts, experiences or feelings conveyed a message of attentive parenting.
I thought both parents were naturally tuned to listen and be appreciate what children conveyed. I remember the parents mentioning that some friends from the school visit the children at home during the week end. The parents felt glad to welcome them and organise some group activities which children enjoy during such times. That home was child friendly and child centred. Both children shared a corner in the home where they had their study desks, cupboards and a wide variety of collections of children's books, toys, art materials and display boards with their drawings and collections of pictures of family events of birthdays and picnics.
The ambience of the home and attentive parenting contributed to a wholesome experience of children growing up wanted, valued, affirmed and loved.
What was significant in the life of that family was that parents existed in the world of children and made every effort to find connection and communication to foster wellness and acceptance of children!
The leaves, flowers and fruits in the plant in our garden had an ornamental look with rain and dew. The ambience around provided that added colourfulness and radiance.
Are children clothed with attentive parenting!
M.C.Mathew(text and photo)
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