15 December, 2025
The rhythm and ritual in a garden.
14 December, 2025
Birds, Spider and Flowers

The garden around our cottage is in its scenic confluence at this time of the year. The weather too is favourable for plant life. The gathering of birds in the feeding station adds to the variety in the garden!
The serene silence of the garden and the reciprocal bird calls provide a good contrasting experience.
The silence and the refreshing interruption !
It is when one can be silent inwardly, the sounds can reach us fully in their myriads of meaning.
The silence prepares the soul to receive the sounds and calls of birds to receive an awakening message.
The feeding station is becoming a place of comfort for birds. The birds do not chase away new visitors. There is a communal harmony.
The political world is in turmoil globally. The human language used by the political leadership is of suspicion and division. The language of nature is wellness, fullness and cohesion.
The news in the media is one of many disappointments; but the garden is a reminder of new life, growth, giving, caring and flourishing!
The garden is announcing the message of Christmas season- a Giving God became present in human form at Bethlehem !
M.C.Mathew(text and photo)
12 December, 2025
A song in the air!
It was the song call of a Magpie Robin that turned my attention to the gate of our cottage, where Daphne was seen looking upward. Seeing Daphne still and looking up, I could spot the Magpie robin perched on a tall coconut palm, singing its carol! Its calls were long and tuneful with short pauses in between. The tuneful singing continued for twenty minutes, till it flew away to a distance beyond my vision.
Tuneful bird calls are the habit of male Magpie robins. Its calls are for other birds, perhaps seeking for pairing!
What intrigued me is the uninterrupted singing!
Its habit of singing is part of its morning rhythm!
Doing good can be a rhythm, worth pursuing! That was the message that resonated within me!
M.C.Mathew(text and photo)
The effect of climate change!
Endearing meal time !

It is not common to notice Barbets feeding together and engage in communication! They feed privately and are less communicative. But here he last five photographs show a language of togetherness and engagement.
The meal times are such occasions to stay in touch with each other. Giving attention to listen and interact would make meal times refreshing.
I recall how in a family table in a home, at supper, each person takes turn to tell an experience or an event or a story ! Listening to the narratives I felt included in the family ambience.
I recall the yeas of a similar practice at supper time when our children were younger, when they had lot to say about school experiences. It was also practice to read a story that children would benefit form, while we were still at the table after finishing the meal. Often that led to the family prayer time!
A meal time is an occasion to feel near to each other and have endearing conversations.
M.C.Mathew(text and photo)
11 December, 2025
Small but special !
I noticed a Handmaiden moth on the leaf of a rose bush. I find these sights interesting as the garden becomes a place of discoveries and new experiences. This moth is seen in some parts of Tamil Nadu and Kerala and Sikkim according to Wikipedia.
Movement readiness !
10 December, 2025
On Being, Becoming and Doing !
Social media and children !
The picture of the flower in the centre in the photo above from our garden, looking withered in the heat of the day made a metaphorical representation of a reality : the children globally have been adversely affected by the social media, internet gaming, and addictive influence of mobile use. The life of children look scarred morally, socially and behaviourally under the influence of these influences. The exposure to addictive drugs seems to begin in early childhood according to a report I read today in the newspaper.
The flower in the centre suffered so much that, its normal life has been marred and impaired! This metaphor disturbed me! Are we about to watch a scene where our children grow up marred by the adverse events of social media and mobile phone dependence ?
Forty percent of the population of India might be under thirty years of age. Fifty percent of that would be children.
I wonder what parents do proactively to help children from slipping into mobile dependence!
I like a family ritual that I notice in some families. The parents are co-watchers with children when they engage in mobile phone or while watching the TV. Both the phones and the TV have child lock that the access is regulated.
What I heard from the family fascinated me. Their two children ten and thirteen years, a boy and girl, have regulated time for TV viewing. Both of them do not own a phone as yet. They have access to their parent's phone, which they use by consent. What surprised me was that both children still do not ask for a private phone.
The parents have planned engagements with children during the week ends and daily family times when they play indoor games, have conversations and engage in the domestic chores together. The culture in the family is communication and togetherness.
This narration spoke to me the way the family life can be made colourful, relational and interactive. It is the absence of this which makes children want to drift into their private world of social media.
When parenting becomes a distant experience emotionally, children fill the void with social media!
The picture of the rose flower looking withered is not a pleasant sight. However the buds on both sides give me an indication of hope that sustains us.
The Australian government is asking some fundamental questions about children's use of mobile phone and unregulated access to social media!
That is hope generating!
M.C.Mathew (text and photo)
Seeing beyond the thorn !
09 December, 2025
Hope that keeps us going !
08 December, 2025
First Experiences 1980 !
The beginning, living and ending !
There is a description of life on earth, that these three photos communicate- birth, living and end. The continuum is well expressed in the last photo.
The now of life, represents a history and future!
Only as much as living is connected with the history and the journey ahead, the living gets esteemed to a level of consciousness of its preciousness and sacred mission.
The living process witnesses to our history and future !
Each of us is a witness to our ancestry, heritage and parentage. We live reflecting and radiating our formative pathway. The contentment, integrity and altruism that form the inner ambience of our lives currently point to the path we would pursue in our future.
Living our life, remembering from where we have come and where we are going is a virtuous mission!
According to Erick Erickson's theory of psycho-social formation, each person is on a journey towards becoming an elder as he or she crosses the mid sixties. An elder is a giver, provider and pathfinder for others.
We grow up therefore, learning gradually to bequeath what we have been given in life, to others after us.
This is the spring time in one's life when life becomes a formative gift to others!
I feel urged to quote from the book, Falling upward by Richard Rohr frpm page 160:
" No one can keep you from the second half of your own life except yourself. Nothing can inhibit your second journey except your own lack of courage, patience, and imagination. Your second journey is all yours to walk or to avoid. My conviction is that some falling apart of the first journey is necessary for this to happen, so do not waste a moment of time lamenting poor parenting, lost job, failed relationship, physical handicap, gender identity, economic poverty, or even tragedy of any kind of abuse. Pain is part of the deal. If you do not walk into the second half of your own life, it is you, who do not want it. God will always give you exactly what you truly want and desire. So make sure you desire, desire deeply, desire yourself, desire God and desire everything good, true, and beautiful.
All emptying out is only for the sake of a great outpouring. God, like nature, abhors all vacuums and rushes to fill them".
Richard writes further:
" Most of us tend to think of the second half of life as largely getting old, dealing with health issues, and letting go of our physical life, but the whole thesis of this book is exactly opposite. What looks like falling can largely be experienced as falling upward and onward, into broader and deeper world, where the soul has found its fullness, is finally connected to the whole and lives inside the Big Picture. It is not a loss but somehow a gain, not losing but actually winning. You probably have to have met at least one true elder to imagine that this could be true" (p153).
What a profound and realistic view of making our journey to become an elder in the second half of our ;life!
M.C.Mathew (text and photo)
















































