Two Bulbuls !

A pair of Bulbuls kept in touch with each other with their bird song even while separated by a few branches in a tree! This communicating presence brought back thoughts that have grown within me for some time. 

Communicating is self disclosure of thoughts, feelings, needs, affirmation, needs, etc. 

The beaks were just open to make a gentle bird song to the Bulbul which was present in the adjacent branch. 

The silent presence and a communicating presence!

There is a huge difference between this two patterns in our family life and work life. It is important for the husband and wife to say and affirm to each other by words of comfort and affection to grow in intimacy and mutuality. The words and expressions of love form an ambience of comfort and communion. This communication of gratefulness and regards create a sense of belonging that the longing to love and care grows towards each other.

At work place, this communication process needs a pattern that is appropriate according to the needs of each other. It is important to recognise any act of kindness and goodwill a person communicates. Most people like to be remembered for what they do. Some are quietly present that they would feel included into the collective spirit when they are talked to and appreciated. The language of care can be expressed in words and acts. Th work place is a social space where sense of togetherness has to grow between people. 

The space between people is a large space and it can be an empty space where people exist self absorbed. It is by wanting to know and by expressing that desire to the other person, he or she moves to build relationships. 

I feel that most work places are inert spaces where relationships are utilitarian. To make them relational spaces, we need to be in a serving role! 

Every act of kindness we receive from each other is a gift for which we need to express gratitude and appreciation. That is the way we promote others to grow and make them feel content.  Those who live with contentment become a larger resource of kindness. To remember to say thank you and express it in a thoughtful way is like a key that opens the door to a passage of trustful of relationships. 

M.C.Mathew(text and photo)